If you are experiencing unwanted, repeated, obsessive, or controlling behaviours that make you feel scared, distressed, or anxious, you may be experiencing stalking.
It’s common to feel unsure, doubt yourself, or minimise what’s happening; especially if the person is someone you know, such as an ex-partner, classmate, or colleague. Stalking is never your fault, and support is available even if you are unsure.
You can also use the Suzy Lamplugh “Am I Being Stalked?” tool to help you reflect on your experiences. They also have a range of resources on personal safety advice.
Stalking is contrary to the University’s Harassment and Bullying Procedure.
Your safety comes first
- Are you in immediate danger? If you are in immediate danger or seriously injured, call 999 (or 112 from a mobile).
- If you are on campus, tell Campus Safety (01483 68 3333) that the emergency services are on their way and give your location.
- Find a safe space: if an incident has just happened, try to move to a place where you feel safe. If this isn’t possible on campus, you can also call Campus Safety.
Talk to someone you trust
- Friends or family can be an important first step for emotional support.
- Campus Safety can explain how to make a report and connect you with further help.
- Sexual Violence Liaison Officers (SVLO) can provide a safe, confidential space to talk about what has happened, explore your options, and support you with next steps if you choose.
- Trade unions are organised groups of workers who come together to support each other in the workplace. The University of Surrey recognises three campus trade unions: Unison, UCU and Unite.
Reporting options
- Police: If you choose to report, Paladin can give advice on gathering evidence and navigating the process.
- Report + Support: Students and staff can report anonymously or request direct support from trained staff. Every report is taken seriously, and you will be supported to explore your options.
- Sexual Violence Liaison Officers (SVLO) if stalking overlaps with sexual harm or misconduct, SVLOs can support you to think through reporting options. They can help you make a report to the University or external services if you wish, and they will only act with your consent unless there is a serious safeguarding risk.
Ongoing support
- Centre for Wellbeing: free, confidential support for students.
- BHSF RISE Employee Assistance Programme: free 24/7 mental health, legal, and financial advice for staff.
Remember: You don’t need to label your experience or be certain it’s stalking before reaching out. If something is making you feel unsafe, it’s important to seek help.